Knowing When to Get Help
It's not always easy to recognize when an older loved one needs help. We all want to support their desire to continue to live independently, even when we have concerns about their safety and well-being. But how do we know when it is time to intervene?
Fortunately, there are good assessment tools and professional consultants available to the elderly and their family members to help decide when assistance is necessary. An assessment is a comprehensive review of a person's mental, physical, environmental and financial condition to establish his or her ability to remain safely independent. It identifies risks and helps determine options to reduce these risks.
While it is possible for families to complete assessments on their own, using standard forms, there are also experienced professionals who can help. Involving a neutral and well-informed third party is often a very useful step in the process. For many families, the first step is to involve a doctor or health professional, preferably one who is known and trusted by the elder person. With medical recommendations in place, your local public health care team or agency for seniors can then guide you to organizations and professionals who will be able to assist you. In many cases, the most difficult part of the process is deciding that the time has come to seek help, and enlisting everyone's cooperation. The elderly person him/herself may not be aware of, or ready to acknowledge, a need for assistance. Although different assessment forms and professionals will offer slight variations, here are some basic areas you will want to consider:
Physical Health
Has your elderly loved one been diagnosed with any chronic diseases such as diabetes, high blood pressure, arthritis or emphysema, bowel or bladder problems, heart disease, stroke or cancer? Does he or she have vision or hearing problems, or difficulty walking? Be sure to gather a list of health professionals involved in their care, and details of any recent hospitalizations.
Mental Health
Has the elderly person been diagnosed with any psychiatric disorders such as depression, anxiety, psychosis, Alzheimer's or any other form of dementia? Are they presently showing signs of confusion, disorientation or depression?
Medication Use
What medications are currently prescribed for them, and what is the dosage? Are they taking their medication reliably and as directed?
Daily Living Skills
Are they able to dress, bathe, use a toilet, climb stairs, and use the phone? Can they shop, prepare meals, do housework and yard work? Can they drive safely?
Home and Community Safety
How safe is their neighborhood? Does their home have smoke alarms which they can hear? Can they avoid telephone and door-to-door fraud?
Support Systems
Does your elderly loved one have regular visitors or contact with friends? Do they go to a Seniors' Center, or leave the house for other social reasons? Do friends or family members live close by? Who can they call in an emergency?
Appearance and Hygiene
How is their overall appearance? Do they dress appropriately in clean clothes?
Finances
Can they live on their current income? Have they arranged for necessary legal documents such as trusts, living wills, and/or durable powers of attorney? Do they pay bills on time and make informed financial decisions?
Interests/Lifestyles
Do they engage in their favorite hobbies, read books, watch their favorite TV shows, exercise, stay connected with their friends? Are they still engaged in the activities they have always enjoyed?
Fortunately, there are good assessment tools and professional consultants available to the elderly and their family members to help decide when assistance is necessary. An assessment is a comprehensive review of a person's mental, physical, environmental and financial condition to establish his or her ability to remain safely independent. It identifies risks and helps determine options to reduce these risks.
While it is possible for families to complete assessments on their own, using standard forms, there are also experienced professionals who can help. Involving a neutral and well-informed third party is often a very useful step in the process. For many families, the first step is to involve a doctor or health professional, preferably one who is known and trusted by the elder person. With medical recommendations in place, your local public health care team or agency for seniors can then guide you to organizations and professionals who will be able to assist you. In many cases, the most difficult part of the process is deciding that the time has come to seek help, and enlisting everyone's cooperation. The elderly person him/herself may not be aware of, or ready to acknowledge, a need for assistance. Although different assessment forms and professionals will offer slight variations, here are some basic areas you will want to consider:
Physical Health
Has your elderly loved one been diagnosed with any chronic diseases such as diabetes, high blood pressure, arthritis or emphysema, bowel or bladder problems, heart disease, stroke or cancer? Does he or she have vision or hearing problems, or difficulty walking? Be sure to gather a list of health professionals involved in their care, and details of any recent hospitalizations.
Mental Health
Has the elderly person been diagnosed with any psychiatric disorders such as depression, anxiety, psychosis, Alzheimer's or any other form of dementia? Are they presently showing signs of confusion, disorientation or depression?
Medication Use
What medications are currently prescribed for them, and what is the dosage? Are they taking their medication reliably and as directed?
Daily Living Skills
Are they able to dress, bathe, use a toilet, climb stairs, and use the phone? Can they shop, prepare meals, do housework and yard work? Can they drive safely?
Home and Community Safety
How safe is their neighborhood? Does their home have smoke alarms which they can hear? Can they avoid telephone and door-to-door fraud?
Support Systems
Does your elderly loved one have regular visitors or contact with friends? Do they go to a Seniors' Center, or leave the house for other social reasons? Do friends or family members live close by? Who can they call in an emergency?
Appearance and Hygiene
How is their overall appearance? Do they dress appropriately in clean clothes?
Finances
Can they live on their current income? Have they arranged for necessary legal documents such as trusts, living wills, and/or durable powers of attorney? Do they pay bills on time and make informed financial decisions?
Interests/Lifestyles
Do they engage in their favorite hobbies, read books, watch their favorite TV shows, exercise, stay connected with their friends? Are they still engaged in the activities they have always enjoyed?
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